I click with my new man at all levels – except that he does not want to have sex | Life and style

I started to go out with someone I really like about two months ago. We click on all levels and he adores me, but he has complicated circumstances, which means that we have no sex life. He has anxiety and takes SSRIs, which reduces his libido. He also takes anticoagulants for a coronary problem, which, I know, prevents the use of erectile dysfunction products. He also said that He never really felt a lot of age from his previous partners. He says he is attracted to me and loves my body. He kisses me to show his interest and his attraction, but not in a strong way of making manufacturing.

I am a very sensual person. My old partner and I had the best sex I have ever had in my life – however, it could sometimes be very far away and have bad emotional intelligence and communication with me (unlike my current partner). I never had this problem with someone else, so even if I understand their vulnerability, I don't know what to do other than to wait. For the moment, I'm ready to be patient. I have never had this problem with someone else, even if I understand their vulnerability, I'm not sure except my plan to wait.

You are intelligent and empathetic, and you are right for the need to be patient and allow the circumstances and reasons to take place. Not everyone would be so patient and understanding. Currently, you seem to balance what your needs are against it, but it will be important to make sure that its very specific requirements are not devouring. Think about your care qualities and determine whether they are healthy or not; If there is a compulsive aspect for them, you may want to withdraw. People who exaggerate – especially when they do it with compulsion – often become exhausted and end up being undervalued. And the beneficiaries of emerging can fall into a state of impotence learned, which is not a healthy situation for one or the other partner.

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